Carl Rogers and Potatoes

Carl Rogers and Potatoes

“I remember that in my boyhood, the bin in which we stored our winter’s supply of potatoes was in the basement, several feet below a small window. The conditions were unfavourable, but the potatoes would begin to sprout — pale, white sprouts, so unlike the healthy green shoots, they sent up when planted in the […]

Self-Love: What is it?

Self-Love: What is it?

Self-love is less about the ability to withstand loneliness or establish independence and more about awareness and acceptance of our incompleteness. It’s about letting others love us even when we feel unlovable because their version of us is often kinder than our own.” “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ————————————————————————————————- “Self-Love.” […]

Living for the Highs or Living for Meaning

Living for the Highs or Living for Meaning

During undergrad and grad school I volunteered at a hospice company called Silverado Hospice. In addition to offering support and care to those who needed it, one of the great byproducts of this experience was getting to hear peoples thoughts, feelings, and stories at the end of life. What did people tend to think about […]

The Stories We Live By

The Stories We Live By

“This is what fools people: A man is always a teller of tales, he lives surrounded by his stories and the stories of others, he sees everything that happens to him through them; and he tries to live his life as if he were telling a story.” -Jean-Paul Satrte If you haven’t noticed just yet, […]

Keep it in the Light

Keep it in the Light

“Keep things in the light” my therapist use to say. This phrase has stuck with me over the years and has taken on a more robust meaning over time. “Keeping things in the light” means a couple of things to me now. One, the importance of being honest with myself. If you are anything like […]

Why We Become Symptomatic in Relationships

Why We Become Symptomatic in Relationships

Our goal since the moment we gasp our first breath is to connect and attach to the people waiting to care for us. We are quite literally born into relationships and we depend upon those relationships for survival. As infants, we learn very quickly what causes our caregivers to withdraw or worse get upset, even […]

Don’t wait until its worse. Call a Psychologist.

Don't wait until its worse. Call a Psychologist.

Life is upside down. The pandemic is a perfect recipe for adverse mental health – isolation, loss of purpose and meaning, and stress (relationally, financially, emotionally). There is a reason solitary confinement drives anyone to insanity. We are locked up without our usual routines, many are resorting to unhealthy behaviors to cope and all of […]

Screen Time in Quarantine: Advice for Parents

Screen Time in Quarantine: Advice for Parents

As you may have noticed your kids like to be in front of a screen. Many parents thought they knew how much their teen loved their devices but had no idea until now. Here is some advice on how to navigate parenting amidst the lockdown turned device addiction. First, check in with them. Build your […]

Understanding Narcissism

Understanding Narcissism

Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is one of the most difficult mental health issues any person or couple contends with. But what exactly is narcissism? How does one become “narcissistic”? Freud originally came up with the term from a Greek character “Narcissus” who fell in love with his reflection in a pool of water […]

The Power of Therapy

The Power of Therapy

Take a moment to think about the context in which your next decision will occur: you did not pick your parents or the time and place of your birth. You didn’t choose your race, gender, or your life experiences. You had no control whatsoever over your genome or the development of your brain. And now […]